I have decided to write this article because I wanted to share an important aspect of the healing journey that people experience. Many clients begin their therapy sessions without realizing that they are starting a journey towards self-love.
Some clients come in hoping that I will be able to make their negative feelings disappear. Some express a desire to remove these negative feelings from their bodies, while others are eager to delve deep and uncover the root of their struggles.
Both types of clients are very determined to heal no matter what.
Embarking on a healing journey requires recognizing that self-judgment and self-criticism are major obstacles to allowing healing to take place. Judgment and self-criticism are not forms of self-love.
The biggest challenge and realization for clients is learning to give themselves the space to observe their thoughts, emotions, and actions from a neutral perspective, and to hold space for their pain, imperfections, and difficult emotions. This new way of living becomes a personal choice.
This space of neutrality and acceptance is a precious gift that one can give to their body and soul in order to come back together. It is a crucial element in embracing the feeling of self-love within the mind and activating the processing of old traumas. I refer to this process as Alchemy, the transformation of traumatic experiences until neutrality is restored. It is a complex and unique sensation.
There are various ways in which people may experience Alchemy. It may feel like a tingling
sensation, a warm wave washing over them, a flood of self-loving grief, or the sensation of diving into emotional pain that both engulfs and releases them simultaneously.
By being open to this process, individuals allow their nervous systems to recalibrate and rewire, ultimately reaching a state of peace that can be long-lasting.
In the end, what is the purpose of all this work? It is to return to a state of self-love and live life from that perspective. Amid everything happening in the world today, it is important to
remember the power of love.
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